I AM NOT A VICTIM
~Surviving Child Abuse~
I am not a victim of child abuse,
I am a survivor...I will not allow
the actions of others to render
I learned very early in life that
I needed to find strength to cope
with and then to overcome, as well
as to compensate for the
actions of those I should have been
able to trust....but couldn't. Sadly, for some, they are not able to find
that strength, and indeed, some never live long enough. For those victims,
my heart breaks.
To lose even one life to abuse is
to render us all victims, and certainly, when the spirit of a child is
silenced forever, we have all lost something difinitive within ourselves.
So often I heard that I too would
grow up to be an abuser....abuse, like cancer, grows and spreads. Determined
not to follow down
that path, I set a course of my
own, for that strength which helped me to survive abuse, also helped me
in my pledge to not become
the abuser. Abuse has to end somewhere...why
not with me?
Because to many children turn to
drugs and alchohol, gangs and violence as a form of medicating themselves
against the pain of neglect and abuse, they never face their pain head
on. And what we refuse to face, will forever be like a cancer growing and
If I were to stress one thing, it
would be to face that pain head on, admit that it hurts like hell, yell,
scream and cry...pound your fists into your pillow...find a "safe" person,
one who is willing to allow you this...and when you are through, recognize
and realize that this was not your fault, you are not to blame, and you
no longer have to carry the burden of guilt and blame.
For those of you who might know of
a child being abused, even if you just suspect, don't turn your back and
walk a way, hoping that someone else will see and help. To that child you
may be his/her only help.
ABUSE MUST STOP...LET IT BEGIN WITH
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